Little Discoveries Part Three – Nursing In Public

There could have been no better day posting about this than today. Its the day two of BIG LATCH ON, a worldwide breastfeeding/nursing in pubic support program. Thank you the new mom on the block TP for reminding me to post about this.

I am keeping this post dedicated to Nursing in Public i.e NIP. Most of us aware about how important Breastfeeding is for our babies, barring few cases where it turns out to be actually difficult or need medical intervention, Breastfeeding is as natural for women as it can be.

I have read quite a lot, is a part of this amazing support group (link with a little description in the end), and is now adamant to keep breastfeeding Bunny as long as possible or till he self weans. As this post is not actually about Breastfeeding, I will just write one line about it, which struck me like lightening while i was consuming all the information about Breastfeeding. Breastmilk is something that your body naturally produces for your baby, don’t underestimate its value and go for unnatural options like formulas or cows milk which is primarily for calves.

For most situations there is always a way around less supply, flat nipples, latching problems and the list goes on. For most unwarranted suggestions – tumhara doodh kafi nahi hai, fir woh kabhi nahi chodega, uska pet nahi bharta, formula peene se baccha ratbhar sota hai (read her why and why its not the best solution ) , just play deaf ear and do your own research and follow what your own motherly instincts say. Moms and MIls are not wrong if they suggest starting formula as formula was marketed more than ever when they were new mothers.

Okay so coming back to NIP, nursing in public is an extension to your commitment to breastfeed your baby, its about comfortably and confidently nursing your baby when outside your home without any inhibitions. Babies need to be fed on demand and not on schedule so practicing NIPing is a boon for new moms who wouldn’t like to be confined in four walls of home or run to car/feeding room every time they are out.

For me a lot of things work in favor, first our life requires movement, we cant even confine ourselves to our home even when we want to.

Second amazing breastfeeding and nursing relationship with Bunny from day one. Doctor teaching me how to nurse lying down which turned out to be a boon in initial breastfeeding journey.

Support from both TBH and family to feed Bunny when need be, irrespective of where we are. Though my MIL was feeding formula as suggested to her by her doc that time, and asking me to start as well, and me gently saying No every time.

And more importantly landing into the Breastfeeding Support Group for Indian moms, exactly at the time when i started doubted my supply at around 4 months of feeding Bunny. Its a support group that is closely monitored with right kinda advise and directions.

Earlier I was feeding him only in car, changing rooms, feeding rooms, when we were out. But once we were in a very busy Mcdonalds, and Bunny was hungry. There was not even a single corner seat available or a decent place to feed him. And my MIL was like yahi feed karlo, whats the big deal, i wasn’t sure how, I went to whatever place I could find to sit, made her stand behind me with a shawl and fed Bunny,  that was first and then there has been no looking back. I have fed him in restaurants, in trains, airports, flights, gardens, taxis, food courts, theatres and where not.

NIPing doesn’t necessarily mean exposing, you can be as discreet as you want to. The whole point is making your breastfeeding journey a part of your regular life, the more you do it, the more normal it becomes for you and other fellow moms. Irony is because we have means and options we rather go for bottle feed or formula rather than choosing the most natural option.

What works

– Practicing at home, finding what cloths work for you. Do it in front of mirror so that you know how comfortable you are with how you look, how much exposing or not you are doing. Two t method like below is great tool if you wear western cloths like me. Kurtas with slit are also great option so as loose ts/shirts.

– See what type of bras work for you. I have hated all the nursing bras i have bought, its too much of trouble, regular bras or the sports bra (without any hooks) is working great for me from past few months.

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– For the initial few times use a regular scarf or a nursing one if you wish to.

– Being confident when you do it, babies catches your feelings very fast, so if you are unsure more likely they will be a lot fussy than usual.

– Talking it with husband/partner and bringing him on board. Very very important, nothing gives you more confident than a supportive partner.

– Being unbothered if you expose a little, it really doesn’t matter.

– Keeping in mind that’s its not shameful in anyway, in fact you should be so proud of yourself for taking this step.

– Getting hang of NIPing is a boon when traveling with, teething baby or when the baby is hurt or in unknown surroundings.

– Always give a reassuring smile if you pass by another Bfing mom.

 

Step by step instructions to become a NIP pro !!!

Specially for moms among us who feel quite overwhelming when we suggest them to just go out in the open and nurse in public.

Disclaimer: to be read in a light hearted manner only.

1. Become a feeding pro. Practice. Practice. Practice feeding your baby in both different sitting and lying down positions. Specially in the first couple of weeks because that time we have relatively less opportunities, strength and will to venture out. And the frequency at which the baby feeds during those initial few weeks only helps us to get the hang of it.

2. Gradually, when it’s the feeding time, stop asking people to move out of your room or go out in a separate room just to feed the baby. That would really help you to shed your inhibitions, also you will learn to be discreet in your approach. The best time to learn the much talked about two t method or basically figure out which type of nursing friendly cloths work for you. And check if nursing covers are for you. I have seen most babies not liking it including mine.

3. Bring the partner/family/ caregiver on the same page. Talk it out that you wouldn’t stop going out or modify your plans around baby’s feeding time. Say you would be nursing in public when time comes. Awkward spouses are more difficult to handle than a hungry baby.

4. Now when you finally start moving out, the first couple of times you can start by asking to use the feeding room facility of some baby stores/ malls or changing rooms of other stores or even the corner seat in a restaurant. IMO even mentioning that you need to feed the baby right here, is like coming a step closer.

5. Now within no time you will master the art of nursing in public. And then there is no looking back. I have nursed in really busy restaurants, airports, trains, theatres, right in front of friends and family, in the flight, alone in a taxi and where not.

Breastfeeding shouldn’t hinder your normal functioning of life like roaming around, traveling or socializing. Also not being able to nurse in public shouldn’t be reason to start formula or alternatives before it’s the right time. And that’s why not only we need to master NIP but also do our bit to normalize it.

This post can’t end without thanking these awesomely managed support groups who helped so many like me in shedding inhibitions and helped in taking informed decisions for our babies.

Link to group – https://www.facebook.com/groups/breastfeedingsupportforindianmoms/

Images Source – www.google.com

Leaving you with a pic of NIPing in a HRC,  when he was around 9 months. Hope this helps, please free to directly get in touch with me if you wish, join the group above for a much guided approach.

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Movies with Babies

Yesterday we watched Bajrangi Bhaijaan with Bunny in tow, where he slept all through out. It must be Bunny’s 10th film and he just completed 12 months couple of days back. This post is not to be judged as a careless parent who make there little ones face such harsh sounds and fast moving visuals, but to share my experience about taking babies to movies if you wish to.

As a background we are complete movie buffs and that is only thing that remains unchanged for us post becoming parents. We took him when he was five months old to PK. And then there was no looking back.

Please note movie theaters are not recommended for Babies below 2 years. So this is not to encourage taking them in anyway. This is just summarizing what can work if you wish to take your babies.

1. Do not take a sleeping baby in, sleep time is okay. But not a sleeping baby, because when he wakes up in between, the darkness, sound or motion pictures can scare him.

2. Don’t feel guilty if your Baby cries or shouts in the theatre, be ready to move out when ever things go out of control
I usually go to a secluded seat, which ever is vacant, if Bunny seems particularly difficult.

3. Master Nursing in public, theatres are a great place because of darkness. And feed the baby whenever he demands. Usually they sleep because of disinterest n darkness.

4. Take some no sound toys. I usually tie them at one end with my scarf or something, while Bunny plays sitting on my lap, so that I don’t need to struggle with picking them from floor/under the seats every two minutes. Also Bunny loves to play with water bottle kept in the chair arm and a straw.

5. These days as Bunny has started solids, I also engage him with some corn or other finger foods, while he enjoys some music.

6. It was much easier when he wasn’t mobile, since he has started crawling and now walking, he doesn’t like confined to spaces. So we usually go with family or a group of friends who don’t mind if our baby is creating a scene. Or one person or other will be there who ain’t much interested in the movie and can take him out for a round or something. Luckily this wasn’t needed till now.

7. Always prefer a corner seat while booking so that you can move out, or give baby some space without disturbing others.

And just don’t be nervous, keep taking to baby that we will be doing for a movie today and what to expect when there. And worst case scenario, leave the movie in between or watch from the entrance/stairs.

These tricks have worked for us so far. I usually avoid very lour or action films, and choose reputed theatres with good sound and acoustics systems.

One year of Bunniness !! One year of Momminess !!

Last I remember I was writing about one month of Bunniness. And now its going to be an year in six days, and I still can’t believe it. Its been a beautiful motherhood journey. Feels like totally non mommy material like me was born to be Bunny’s mom.

I can’t tell you how much I am enjoying this now not so new role. I am loving every single moment of it.

Bunny is a sweetheart, I can’t probably explain in words how much I love him. He is a complete attention seeker, loves socializing. Melts everybody’s heart with his smiles. He will keep smiling/calling you in his own way until you respond to him and smile back. He absolutely love being in crowd.

Has already been to around 12 cities and has been constantly on the go since birth. And the inflow-outflow of guests at our home has almost doubled as contrary to what I earlier thought. So has not really been alone with us.

He is a happy -healthy kid generally. Has been quite a supportive baby. I just feel lucky and blessed to have him.

He is quite a active baby. And if I am around he doesn’t need anything else :). And I am always around, even in loo we kinda accompany each other. I think when time comes for his school or when i would be required to be out of home, the separation would be more difficult for me than him.

I am just overwhelmed and so excited. July has been great since the start. First we had this impromptu road trip to Amritsar – Chandigarh with sister and her friends. Which was great by all means, Bunny got slight fever on Day two, which worried me a bit but as soon as we realized it was due to teething, I was relived. And by next day evening he was completely himself. Tomorrow we are flying to Pune for a short weekend trip to Lavasa (for my birthday) then joining family in Bunny’s birthplace for his birthday and some celebrations :).

And our one year old household with a baby has been quite different with what me or my family envisioned.

– Its been a Johnson baby or any baby product free household. Yes no soaps, no powder, no creams for Bunny :). Only our very own coconut oil and mustard oil in winters.

– Its been a cerelac or any sort of pureed free home. I have not even learnt to force feed Bunny or feed him by distraction. Funnily I love khichdi and since Bunny’s arrival, unlike popular belief, it has been the least cooked food in our Kitchen.

– Also I have never bought a single box of formula milk. Breastfeeding and practicing Nursing in Public has been a boon for the kind of life we are leading with the Baby.

– Teddy-bears and soft toys free home. The ones we got as gifts are happilly lying in some corner, Bunny just doenst play with them. May be now as he grows. he will develop a fondness with them.

– No jhula, no walker, no crib, not a lot of fancy toys for him.

– Very early into the motherhood journey I learnt, that the kinda toy and how colorful/beautiful or expensive it is hardly matters to babies, they happily play with even kitchen or everyday stuff. What is important is giving them exposure to everything, sounds, colors, words, music, motion etc.

– Still no single pics of Bunny hanging on our walls, regretfully true.

– I have not once lost my temper with Bunny or regretted being a mom in this one year.

My only indulgences has been cloth diapers to an extent and Baby Carriers which has opened up new avenues for me, so I really do not mind.

Needless to say, i have been lucky with the kinda of family support system I have. The supportive partner I have, who supports me unconditionally, stands there as a pillar and trusts me with my decisions and ways to raise Bunny. Also for getting right information at the right time rather than being misguided and following some things which I would have regretted later.

Only thing I would like to change is TBH spending more quality and engaging time with Bunny and he learning to be with his Pa, even when I am not around. Somehow it is still not happening, and somewhere I am also a culprit because I kinda always intervene as soon as I hear things going out of control and do not give TBH fair chance. He has also been extremely overloaded with work lately, but he needs to be more hands on dad.

Like all the overwhelming emotional posts, I have no idea where did i start and where it is ending; Just that I am so happy to have a wonderful – beautiful motherhood journey, all thanks to my little munchkin.

Leaving you with a pic from our recent trip, somewhere enroute to Chandigarh from Amritsar.

One year of Bunniness !! One year of Momminess !!

One year of Bunniness !! One year of Momminess !!

Is Babywearing Worth it ?

‘Is Babywearing worth it?’  – This is the most common question faced by Babywearing parents from parents who have yet not taken the plunge. The questions come in different forms, like – Would a child like to be carried once he has started walking? How long a carrier is used? Why would we make an investment for something which will be of no use in few months.

It is true that its all about the bond, you can carry your baby even in a dupatta or a saree, or a table cloth for that matter, a baby wouldn’t know the difference. But the fact remains that a lot of passionate Babywearing Moms and Dads start making some big investments towards different Baby Carriers. And that’s where it starts looking a bit odd to the onlookers.

There would be days when you wouldn’t even touch your carrier. In our kind of culture, you can always get helping hands, there will always be grandparents who won’t get tired holding your Baby for hours together. Those days you won’t even remember the baby carrier you so diligently purchased. There will be days that you will doubt why you even invested in one.

But then there will be days when amidst a great holiday, your otherwise happy – healthy baby gets a fever owing to teething, he only wants to be in your arms for literally the whole day. You can’t stay indoors all day long, because you have a travel plan which needs to be followed, you have co travelers who needs to be considered before changing the schedule, above all your baby needs some fresh air, he wants to roam around but clinging to you, that time your beloved, trusted baby carrier comes to rescue. This is me and my baby story during last weekend. Everything was going great but suddenly the second day Bunny (my almost 1 yr old) woke up with fever and only the next day i realized it was due to teething. He just wanted to be with me all the time. I held him for hours in a ring sling, in a soft structured carrier and off course in my arms too. So yes on such days the carrier and all the Babywearing related investments seems worth it.

In the Babywearing Communities we keep hearing about different situations where Babywearing comes to rescue for so many parents. How Babywearing help moms to lead a regular life as against being confined to home because now they have a baby. How a mom was able to attend an emergency without being dependent on someone because she could carry her baby close to her. How a couple were able to enjoy their favorite activity like travelling  or trekking with their baby close to them. How a mom was able to cater to the needs of her sick child who was undergoing a treatment, so and so forth.

And yes that one day, one situation makes everything worth it. Apart from the fact that you won’t even realize when your little one has become this independent individual and there are only few years you can actually cuddle him, keep him close and snug.

Keep them close for as long as you can !!! And if you are still wondering why so many carriers, that’s because they also have a great resale value, some even more than their purchase value.

Leaving you with a pic when Bunny Boy was a little better the next day but wanted to be held and be only with me. Here I am having dinner, after long, tiring day and Bunny sleeping peacefully on me.

Carrier in this Pic – Boba 3g

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Originally posted here – http://www.babywearingstuff.com/module/csblog/post/19-1–is-babywearing-worth-it.html

Little discoveries Part Two – Babywearing and Babywearing Stuff

I know I have mentioned about Babywearing before, it was first a discovery, then very subtly it changed into a passion, something I would like to introduce to each new mom to. I have seen the positive changes it has brought in my life after being a mom.

The biggest fear of every new mom specially first timers are being confined to homes, because how would you take such a small baby out? How would you manage the stroller and all the stuff alone, and Babywearing (practice of carrying your baby in safe and ergonomic carriers) has come to my rescue in this case. Since the time I have started wearing Bunny in slings, wraps etc, by dependency on others specially TBH has drastically reduced. And amazingly its not about carrying babies when out, it has so much more to it.

While I work around managing time and be regular here, I will post what I have written about Babywearing on my website :). Yes, remember I mentioned about opening up my own venture? Its been a little over three months and its been a great experience. I will write in detail about http://www.babywearingstuff.com, later. But if you have time, i would be glad if you can just have a look, browse and read a bit about it. In short it is India’s first Baby Carriers estore, One stop solution to all Babywearing needs. But apart from the business prospering, what I would like more is Parents being introduced to this beautiful bond of Babywearing. If you would open the links mentioned in the below write up, almost all Babywearing related queries would be resolved.

Copying my introduction on my website Blog –

Originally  written on – 21 April 2015,

When me and my other half were expecting ourBabywearing_Bobacarrier little Bunny baby (9 months old today, yay already?), like every other parent we had a lot of dreams about enjoying with our baby. We both envisioned carrying him in the regular baby carriers available in the market. Why you would ask, because one thing that is constant in our life despite everything is being on the go all the time. We wanted a way to carry our baby with us without much hassles.

Like frantic new parents who research on everything that is related to the baby, (thanks to smart phones, faster net, and Google), I started my research on Baby carriers. And realized that the most common ones you see in the market our not so good for your baby – read here why. Unfortunately due to lack of knowledge and available options new parents end up buying the usual narrow based carrier and give up on them as soon as they buy.

Through some blog connections I ended up on this awesomely managed Babywearing India group where the admins and members are doing their best to spread right babywearing in India. They guide new parents in the best possible way and direct them to places where right carriers can be bought.

And that’s where the addiction began. I have been wearing/carrying my little boy since he was four months old and we both love it. It’s comfortable, its keeps my hands free, it’s safe for the baby, it makes roaming around easy, it makes travelling with a baby super manageable and I can just go on and on. Also I can’t complain about all the attention we getJ.  If you want to read more about why you should carry your baby in ergonomic carriers along with scientific research supporting it, read here.

So now I own four carriers all from Indian makers, and they all are great products.  Babywearing Stuff is essentially formed to bring all the Indian makers to one platform. Making not only buying easier for all the interested parents out here but spreading awareness about ergonomically designed baby carriers and how can babywearing help you. It won’t be a wrong if I say that one of the mojor factors of me enjoying motherhood throughly is because of Babywearing.

Welcome to the world of Babywearing !!!

You might feel it’s new concept in India but Google Babywearing and you will be surprised how evolved it already is.

And just if you are wondering wasn’t stroller an option, it definitely was, we bought the lightest, the best one in the market as soon as we were back to Delhi alone with the baby. It’s been used exactly three times, lying untouched from past five months. And I am too lazy to even use to carry groceries.  

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Hey People, I am here – alive and kicking !!!!

Just wanted to say I am still alive, still mothering Bunny who is growing at a super fast speed and still loving life :).

A lot has happened over the last few months I have been away. Biggest of them is Bunny turning almost 11 months old and our lives revolving around him completely.

I started my own venture. Yes something related to one of my discoveries during almost an year of being a Mommy. More about it later.

The motherhood discoveries continue to baffle me, more so the fact that how many of us live in a world of complete myths when it comes to motherhood,

TBH is busy than never before, and that’s why a little difficult for me to have free time.

We had our first weekend vacation at a beach resort. Bunny’s first experience with beach and pool happened.

In almost three years of living in the same society, I have finally found someone to go to, to walk with, to bake together with, the relationship is still fresh, so a bit early to comment, but so far so good.

And did I tell you first time in being married stage, my birthday is planned in advanced, tickets are booked in advance for a short holiday.

Only constant has been continuous inflow – outflow of guests, constantly being on the go and catching movies almost every weekend. Yes with Bunny in tow.

In recent news Bunny’s long adorable silky soft locks have gone last Sunday, as expected I cried more than him in the whole process of getting his head tonsured.

And apart from my Busyness, Bunnyness and new business -ness the biggest reason of being away from Blogworld was my time away from my iPad. I am not sure if you guys know or not, this ipad was a gift from TBH on our wedding day after he learnt I am not so much into jewellery and other stuff. Couple of months back one of my naughty nephew got hold of this, dropped it and the screen broke into million pieces. And my cousin got it repaired as well but something went amiss for me since then. It dint feel the same to me :(. It’s only now that I am trying to love it back.

Anyhow, I have not been very regular with reading also, if there is any big news I have missed, please update me :).

What motherhood has taught me!!!

It’s been only seven months of being a mommy and I think I am, already a changed person. A couple of hours back we came back home after running few errands. I was very very hungry, the food was prepared already but I patiently waited to feed Bunny and he felt sleepy. I had to further wait to let him sleep soundly. The earlier me would not have done it at all, if not proper food, I would have asked TBH to put anything in my mouth.

In the afternoon right after when Bunny woke up from his nap, TBH was holding him. He made some funny noise and Bunny was totally startled. He started crying loudly, I came rushing, held him tight and calmed him down. It took him few minutes to come back to his normal self. The earlier me would have bombarded TBH with accusations.

In the same situation the earlier me would have started crying with Bunny. Infact I did cry in the initial few weeks, each and every time Bunny cried for no apparent reason.

It has made me a positive person, we are consciously working on creating positive environment for Bunny. And my faith is only getting stronger when I see how Bunny’s behaviour changes, catching our temperament on some specific days. For the very same reason you see me complaining less and less these days.

It has made me really grateful to God. When I hear about tough conceptions, tough pregnancies, difficult deliveries and postpartum period, i thank god for giving me a healthy pregnancy, healthy baby and a very supportive family. Despite being extremely over weight, despite having PCOS and despite not doing anything vigorously for my weight management.

It has made me strong and bold in very subtle ways. I think have become stronger just to let him face the big bad world out there and bold with regards to clearly mentioning my decisions and choices in bringing him up.

One thing I picked up early after being a mom was being less and less judgmental about parents and babies. Even a single casual remark about babies leave huge impact on the new parents, – has he lost weight, he cries a lot na, seems he is hungry, you don’t produce enough milk, his legs seems bent, how much he pees, etc etc. Like I said a causal unthoughtful remark from near strangers and your whole day is wasted in worrying about it. Each parent only wants best for the baby and if you have made certain choices for your comfort also, it’s completely fine. Moms are not Gods. And no criticism or opinion sharing unless I know the whole story.

And as an extension to the above point, I have a new found respect for my both set parents. What we are today, we owe it to them.

It has definitely made me a fast worker and a multi-Tasker. I realise I can do so much in so little time. Though the list of to dos is never ending, but nevertheless in Bunny’s multiple half an hour nap sessions I have started prioritising and dividing tasks to be more effective.

Started feeling less guilty for no fault of mine. If I am out with friends and Bunny needs to be fed, I don’t need apologise, or when I need to cut an important conversation because my baby has just pooped or when we are late because I dint want to disturb Bunny’s sleep. You get the drift right?

Also have learnt to be prepared for the unprepared. Like when you are almost ready to go out, everything has been perfect though out the day, you make the baby ready, you change yourself, the husband is ready, you take the keys, go to the lift and right there the baby poops with a big loud weird sound and weirder expression. And while changing diaper he not only gets dirty himself and needs a whole change of cloths but pees on your dress too. So being prepared for the unprepared is the key.

Last the feeling of letting it go, big biggest change so far. Letting go of a lot of glitches, fears, ego clashes, useless talks, taunts, unnecessary complaints just to make infinite space for love :