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Little Discoveries Part Four – Coconut Oil

Ahh, I don’t think I have used so much Coconut oil in my 27 years of existence, that I used in my one year of motherhood. If you guys remember, I mentioned that we don’t use any soaps, powder, moisturizer or other baby products for Bunny. And it’s been an year of no skin troubles ( touch wood and thank god).

All this while Coconut oil is my biggest discovery. Be it for rashes, body massage, mosquito bites, scratches or as a head oil. You get the drift right? I am so happy that leaving all the fancy baby stuff I chose something basic and desi. Reading about various skin issues in babies scare me to hell. Thanks to our doctor who mentioned that the biggest cause of various skin troubles in babies is using all the marketed baby products which are harsh for their sensitive skin and gladly we followed it.

I am yet to calculate how much money I have saved but it must be a lot 😉

If you can get pure/virgin Coconut oil nothing like it, I used the regular oil available in retail stores. Even if you don’t end up using only Coconut oil, please be aware of the side effects of using a lot of other baby products specially Johnson and Johnson and any baby powder. Google it, or will add links later.

What products you guys use? Share the ones you swear buy, now its been an year, I am planning to use a bath gel sort of during Bath time. Do suggest.

Movies with Babies

Yesterday we watched Bajrangi Bhaijaan with Bunny in tow, where he slept all through out. It must be Bunny’s 10th film and he just completed 12 months couple of days back. This post is not to be judged as a careless parent who make there little ones face such harsh sounds and fast moving visuals, but to share my experience about taking babies to movies if you wish to.

As a background we are complete movie buffs and that is only thing that remains unchanged for us post becoming parents. We took him when he was five months old to PK. And then there was no looking back.

Please note movie theaters are not recommended for Babies below 2 years. So this is not to encourage taking them in anyway. This is just summarizing what can work if you wish to take your babies.

1. Do not take a sleeping baby in, sleep time is okay. But not a sleeping baby, because when he wakes up in between, the darkness, sound or motion pictures can scare him.

2. Don’t feel guilty if your Baby cries or shouts in the theatre, be ready to move out when ever things go out of control
I usually go to a secluded seat, which ever is vacant, if Bunny seems particularly difficult.

3. Master Nursing in public, theatres are a great place because of darkness. And feed the baby whenever he demands. Usually they sleep because of disinterest n darkness.

4. Take some no sound toys. I usually tie them at one end with my scarf or something, while Bunny plays sitting on my lap, so that I don’t need to struggle with picking them from floor/under the seats every two minutes. Also Bunny loves to play with water bottle kept in the chair arm and a straw.

5. These days as Bunny has started solids, I also engage him with some corn or other finger foods, while he enjoys some music.

6. It was much easier when he wasn’t mobile, since he has started crawling and now walking, he doesn’t like confined to spaces. So we usually go with family or a group of friends who don’t mind if our baby is creating a scene. Or one person or other will be there who ain’t much interested in the movie and can take him out for a round or something. Luckily this wasn’t needed till now.

7. Always prefer a corner seat while booking so that you can move out, or give baby some space without disturbing others.

And just don’t be nervous, keep taking to baby that we will be doing for a movie today and what to expect when there. And worst case scenario, leave the movie in between or watch from the entrance/stairs.

These tricks have worked for us so far. I usually avoid very lour or action films, and choose reputed theatres with good sound and acoustics systems.

One year of Bunniness !! One year of Momminess !!

Last I remember I was writing about one month of Bunniness. And now its going to be an year in six days, and I still can’t believe it. Its been a beautiful motherhood journey. Feels like totally non mommy material like me was born to be Bunny’s mom.

I can’t tell you how much I am enjoying this now not so new role. I am loving every single moment of it.

Bunny is a sweetheart, I can’t probably explain in words how much I love him. He is a complete attention seeker, loves socializing. Melts everybody’s heart with his smiles. He will keep smiling/calling you in his own way until you respond to him and smile back. He absolutely love being in crowd.

Has already been to around 12 cities and has been constantly on the go since birth. And the inflow-outflow of guests at our home has almost doubled as contrary to what I earlier thought. So has not really been alone with us.

He is a happy -healthy kid generally. Has been quite a supportive baby. I just feel lucky and blessed to have him.

He is quite a active baby. And if I am around he doesn’t need anything else :). And I am always around, even in loo we kinda accompany each other. I think when time comes for his school or when i would be required to be out of home, the separation would be more difficult for me than him.

I am just overwhelmed and so excited. July has been great since the start. First we had this impromptu road trip to Amritsar – Chandigarh with sister and her friends. Which was great by all means, Bunny got slight fever on Day two, which worried me a bit but as soon as we realized it was due to teething, I was relived. And by next day evening he was completely himself. Tomorrow we are flying to Pune for a short weekend trip to Lavasa (for my birthday) then joining family in Bunny’s birthplace for his birthday and some celebrations :).

And our one year old household with a baby has been quite different with what me or my family envisioned.

– Its been a Johnson baby or any baby product free household. Yes no soaps, no powder, no creams for Bunny :). Only our very own coconut oil and mustard oil in winters.

– Its been a cerelac or any sort of pureed free home. I have not even learnt to force feed Bunny or feed him by distraction. Funnily I love khichdi and since Bunny’s arrival, unlike popular belief, it has been the least cooked food in our Kitchen.

– Also I have never bought a single box of formula milk. Breastfeeding and practicing Nursing in Public has been a boon for the kind of life we are leading with the Baby.

– Teddy-bears and soft toys free home. The ones we got as gifts are happilly lying in some corner, Bunny just doenst play with them. May be now as he grows. he will develop a fondness with them.

– No jhula, no walker, no crib, not a lot of fancy toys for him.

– Very early into the motherhood journey I learnt, that the kinda toy and how colorful/beautiful or expensive it is hardly matters to babies, they happily play with even kitchen or everyday stuff. What is important is giving them exposure to everything, sounds, colors, words, music, motion etc.

– Still no single pics of Bunny hanging on our walls, regretfully true.

– I have not once lost my temper with Bunny or regretted being a mom in this one year.

My only indulgences has been cloth diapers to an extent and Baby Carriers which has opened up new avenues for me, so I really do not mind.

Needless to say, i have been lucky with the kinda of family support system I have. The supportive partner I have, who supports me unconditionally, stands there as a pillar and trusts me with my decisions and ways to raise Bunny. Also for getting right information at the right time rather than being misguided and following some things which I would have regretted later.

Only thing I would like to change is TBH spending more quality and engaging time with Bunny and he learning to be with his Pa, even when I am not around. Somehow it is still not happening, and somewhere I am also a culprit because I kinda always intervene as soon as I hear things going out of control and do not give TBH fair chance. He has also been extremely overloaded with work lately, but he needs to be more hands on dad.

Like all the overwhelming emotional posts, I have no idea where did i start and where it is ending; Just that I am so happy to have a wonderful – beautiful motherhood journey, all thanks to my little munchkin.

Leaving you with a pic from our recent trip, somewhere enroute to Chandigarh from Amritsar.

One year of Bunniness !! One year of Momminess !!

One year of Bunniness !! One year of Momminess !!

Little discoveries Part Two – Babywearing and Babywearing Stuff

I know I have mentioned about Babywearing before, it was first a discovery, then very subtly it changed into a passion, something I would like to introduce to each new mom to. I have seen the positive changes it has brought in my life after being a mom.

The biggest fear of every new mom specially first timers are being confined to homes, because how would you take such a small baby out? How would you manage the stroller and all the stuff alone, and Babywearing (practice of carrying your baby in safe and ergonomic carriers) has come to my rescue in this case. Since the time I have started wearing Bunny in slings, wraps etc, by dependency on others specially TBH has drastically reduced. And amazingly its not about carrying babies when out, it has so much more to it.

While I work around managing time and be regular here, I will post what I have written about Babywearing on my website :). Yes, remember I mentioned about opening up my own venture? Its been a little over three months and its been a great experience. I will write in detail about http://www.babywearingstuff.com, later. But if you have time, i would be glad if you can just have a look, browse and read a bit about it. In short it is India’s first Baby Carriers estore, One stop solution to all Babywearing needs. But apart from the business prospering, what I would like more is Parents being introduced to this beautiful bond of Babywearing. If you would open the links mentioned in the below write up, almost all Babywearing related queries would be resolved.

Copying my introduction on my website Blog –

Originally  written on – 21 April 2015,

When me and my other half were expecting ourBabywearing_Bobacarrier little Bunny baby (9 months old today, yay already?), like every other parent we had a lot of dreams about enjoying with our baby. We both envisioned carrying him in the regular baby carriers available in the market. Why you would ask, because one thing that is constant in our life despite everything is being on the go all the time. We wanted a way to carry our baby with us without much hassles.

Like frantic new parents who research on everything that is related to the baby, (thanks to smart phones, faster net, and Google), I started my research on Baby carriers. And realized that the most common ones you see in the market our not so good for your baby – read here why. Unfortunately due to lack of knowledge and available options new parents end up buying the usual narrow based carrier and give up on them as soon as they buy.

Through some blog connections I ended up on this awesomely managed Babywearing India group where the admins and members are doing their best to spread right babywearing in India. They guide new parents in the best possible way and direct them to places where right carriers can be bought.

And that’s where the addiction began. I have been wearing/carrying my little boy since he was four months old and we both love it. It’s comfortable, its keeps my hands free, it’s safe for the baby, it makes roaming around easy, it makes travelling with a baby super manageable and I can just go on and on. Also I can’t complain about all the attention we getJ.  If you want to read more about why you should carry your baby in ergonomic carriers along with scientific research supporting it, read here.

So now I own four carriers all from Indian makers, and they all are great products.  Babywearing Stuff is essentially formed to bring all the Indian makers to one platform. Making not only buying easier for all the interested parents out here but spreading awareness about ergonomically designed baby carriers and how can babywearing help you. It won’t be a wrong if I say that one of the mojor factors of me enjoying motherhood throughly is because of Babywearing.

Welcome to the world of Babywearing !!!

You might feel it’s new concept in India but Google Babywearing and you will be surprised how evolved it already is.

And just if you are wondering wasn’t stroller an option, it definitely was, we bought the lightest, the best one in the market as soon as we were back to Delhi alone with the baby. It’s been used exactly three times, lying untouched from past five months. And I am too lazy to even use to carry groceries.  

OHW

Hey People, I am here – alive and kicking !!!!

Just wanted to say I am still alive, still mothering Bunny who is growing at a super fast speed and still loving life :).

A lot has happened over the last few months I have been away. Biggest of them is Bunny turning almost 11 months old and our lives revolving around him completely.

I started my own venture. Yes something related to one of my discoveries during almost an year of being a Mommy. More about it later.

The motherhood discoveries continue to baffle me, more so the fact that how many of us live in a world of complete myths when it comes to motherhood,

TBH is busy than never before, and that’s why a little difficult for me to have free time.

We had our first weekend vacation at a beach resort. Bunny’s first experience with beach and pool happened.

In almost three years of living in the same society, I have finally found someone to go to, to walk with, to bake together with, the relationship is still fresh, so a bit early to comment, but so far so good.

And did I tell you first time in being married stage, my birthday is planned in advanced, tickets are booked in advance for a short holiday.

Only constant has been continuous inflow – outflow of guests, constantly being on the go and catching movies almost every weekend. Yes with Bunny in tow.

In recent news Bunny’s long adorable silky soft locks have gone last Sunday, as expected I cried more than him in the whole process of getting his head tonsured.

And apart from my Busyness, Bunnyness and new business -ness the biggest reason of being away from Blogworld was my time away from my iPad. I am not sure if you guys know or not, this ipad was a gift from TBH on our wedding day after he learnt I am not so much into jewellery and other stuff. Couple of months back one of my naughty nephew got hold of this, dropped it and the screen broke into million pieces. And my cousin got it repaired as well but something went amiss for me since then. It dint feel the same to me :(. It’s only now that I am trying to love it back.

Anyhow, I have not been very regular with reading also, if there is any big news I have missed, please update me :).

What motherhood has taught me!!!

It’s been only seven months of being a mommy and I think I am, already a changed person. A couple of hours back we came back home after running few errands. I was very very hungry, the food was prepared already but I patiently waited to feed Bunny and he felt sleepy. I had to further wait to let him sleep soundly. The earlier me would not have done it at all, if not proper food, I would have asked TBH to put anything in my mouth.

In the afternoon right after when Bunny woke up from his nap, TBH was holding him. He made some funny noise and Bunny was totally startled. He started crying loudly, I came rushing, held him tight and calmed him down. It took him few minutes to come back to his normal self. The earlier me would have bombarded TBH with accusations.

In the same situation the earlier me would have started crying with Bunny. Infact I did cry in the initial few weeks, each and every time Bunny cried for no apparent reason.

It has made me a positive person, we are consciously working on creating positive environment for Bunny. And my faith is only getting stronger when I see how Bunny’s behaviour changes, catching our temperament on some specific days. For the very same reason you see me complaining less and less these days.

It has made me really grateful to God. When I hear about tough conceptions, tough pregnancies, difficult deliveries and postpartum period, i thank god for giving me a healthy pregnancy, healthy baby and a very supportive family. Despite being extremely over weight, despite having PCOS and despite not doing anything vigorously for my weight management.

It has made me strong and bold in very subtle ways. I think have become stronger just to let him face the big bad world out there and bold with regards to clearly mentioning my decisions and choices in bringing him up.

One thing I picked up early after being a mom was being less and less judgmental about parents and babies. Even a single casual remark about babies leave huge impact on the new parents, – has he lost weight, he cries a lot na, seems he is hungry, you don’t produce enough milk, his legs seems bent, how much he pees, etc etc. Like I said a causal unthoughtful remark from near strangers and your whole day is wasted in worrying about it. Each parent only wants best for the baby and if you have made certain choices for your comfort also, it’s completely fine. Moms are not Gods. And no criticism or opinion sharing unless I know the whole story.

And as an extension to the above point, I have a new found respect for my both set parents. What we are today, we owe it to them.

It has definitely made me a fast worker and a multi-Tasker. I realise I can do so much in so little time. Though the list of to dos is never ending, but nevertheless in Bunny’s multiple half an hour nap sessions I have started prioritising and dividing tasks to be more effective.

Started feeling less guilty for no fault of mine. If I am out with friends and Bunny needs to be fed, I don’t need apologise, or when I need to cut an important conversation because my baby has just pooped or when we are late because I dint want to disturb Bunny’s sleep. You get the drift right?

Also have learnt to be prepared for the unprepared. Like when you are almost ready to go out, everything has been perfect though out the day, you make the baby ready, you change yourself, the husband is ready, you take the keys, go to the lift and right there the baby poops with a big loud weird sound and weirder expression. And while changing diaper he not only gets dirty himself and needs a whole change of cloths but pees on your dress too. So being prepared for the unprepared is the key.

Last the feeling of letting it go, big biggest change so far. Letting go of a lot of glitches, fears, ego clashes, useless talks, taunts, unnecessary complaints just to make infinite space for love :

Little discoveries Part one – Modern Cloth Diapers

This is for you TGND, I have been planning forever to do a detailed post, but never getting enough time. I saw your comment asking me about them, so here I go, not so much in detail but a good start in any case.

In simple words Modern cloth diapers lies somewhere in middle of the age-old cloth nappies in Indian households aka langots and disposables like pampers, huggies etc. Only so much better than both of them.

Unlike langot it can hold multiple pees from one to many hours depending upon the variant of diaper and insert (absorbent) you are using and on the baby how frequent or heavy wetter he is.

And unlike disposables it’s environment friendly, reusable and washable diaper. Also quite economical in the long run. And mostly bum friendly that is doesn’t cause rashes like disposable do.

The most common cloth diapers are shaped like a disposable with a snap button system to adjust to various sizes and have an opening on rear end/ pocket to put the insert. Insert are of various types both material wise and absorbency wise. The layer which touches babies bottom is mostly stay dry and outer layer is water proof.

There are hundreds of awesome blogs sharing all about them, what are they, types of CDs, reviews etc, so I am not going to do that. I will be sharing my experience of using them.

Langots vs Cloth diapers

Honestly there is no match to our traditional langots considering you change the baby every time he gets wet, and somehow I feel you are more aware of his needs.

NEWBORN STAGE

Nothing like soft cotton touching the baby’s sensitive skin. I am completely in favour of using soft cotton langots in the initial few weeks.

Also even the new born cloth diapers looks bulky on our tiny babies.

But this is also true that it gets quite overwhelming for a new first time mom. The frequency with which the babies pee during that time, no one prepares you for that during the pregnancy. And mostly you are responsible for the whole nappy change business. At some point it does seem that your life revolves in a loop of feeding and changing the nappy. Not just nappy but the receiving cloth/bedsheets and sometimes your cloths as well.

Bunny was sensitive to wet, and would wake up / cry every time he would get wet.

And for the same reason I switched to disposable diapers for few days in the first fifteen days only, and the rashes it caused fills me with guilt even today.

Alternatives – if I would have known about the cloth diapers earlier

When you enter the world of cloth diapers you realise it’s not only putting a cloth diaper on the baby. It’s also about choosing natural options above disposables as much as possible.

So there are new born waterproof covers available in the market which can be put upon your regular nappies. Saving you from the hustle of carrying the baby always with hundreds of layers beneath him.

Then there are various options of putting up flats (rectangular piece of nappy) into different origami folds suitable for different needs. Google origami flat folds, you will be surprised with all the options available. And also not to forget DIY a options, bringing old cotton sarees, tshirts in better use.

PAST THE NEWBORN

So once the baby crosses the initial two three months, it’s difficult to keep him at one place, so all the water proof plastic sheets to hold the baby, or which are spread on bed/cot doesn’t remain much useful.

Not only difficult, keeping him at one place seems a little unfair to me. Even without the cloth diapers I don’t mind Bunny wetting our furniture or our bedding, honestly. Just hygiene becomes another issue in this way.

I started using exclusive cloth diapers during day time in the same period. In Fact in his fifth month which coincided with winters. Needless to say it turned out to be one of best decision in my motherhood journey. Few reasons:

– he became a free bird, was free to move anywhere safe and wasn’t confined to space.
– the place where we were staying was extremely cold. So he would cry every time he needed a change. Also he has always been a frequent wetter but the pee count increased tremendously in winters, so CDs became very useful.
– we started taking him out quite frequently for shorter durations, and using disposables for every outing seemed really waste of money to me.

DISPOSABLES vs CLOTH DIAPERS

No comparisons, better in every aspect. Environment friendly. Pocket friendly. Baby friendly.

But I have to confess I still use disposables during night because I am still exploring nighttime cloth diaper solution. And unfortunately I can’t compromise both mine and Bunny’s sleep in changing diaper in the night. But as summers are approaching and Bunny is sleeping better I think in a week or two I will be able to switch to cloth diapers completely

Also if the travel is of more than two days, and washing is not an option. Reason I don’t own so many CDs. And I don’t like the idea of keeping unwashed diapers with me.

Good Disposables do hold pee for more hours than any regular cloth diaper but then whatever the quality of disposable is or whatever the company claims you should change even disposables quite often.

Also cloth diapers look bulky on small babies, at least the basic ones. There are variants available which are more trim in fit but costs a bomb. I don’t own any so not sure if they are worth it or not.

But if not for any other reason than the prints. CDs are so so cute unlike the boring same disposable.

Word of caution
It’s a whole new world, the more you read it, use it more addicted you become.
It’s exciting but also a bit more hardwork in keeping them clean, requires a bit careful washing, sometimes different detergents.
And when we say water proof there may be instances of leaks in cloth diapers due to various reasons.
The bulk some times gets a lot of criticism from skeptical grannys.
It may seem expensive but believe me turns out much cheaper, I have seen the effect in just two months of using them.
If in the initial months your baby poops after almost very feed, like mine did. flats with covers would be better option for you than pocket diapers.

My two cents
If you are on disposable 24*7, switch to cloth diapers immediately.
If you are okay with managing langots or practice EC, still do keep some cloth diapers handy for outings or when you have guests at home and all such instances when your hand reaches out for disposables.

Sourcing them
Even today it’s not easily available with any of the retail baby outlets. But there are various options available online. Most sites with baby products keep them. They might range from 200/piece to 2000/piece.

Also there are some other cd companies which ships them to India like Alvababy, sun baby if you are looking for better deals and buying in bulk.

I would suggest trying a couple of reasonably priced options and see how do you like it.

I bought mine from Indian vendors basically all are mom entrepreneurs. Not just it saves me from the hassle of importing them but has given me the much needed guidance and customer service.

Leaving you with the link of the awesomely managed Indian Cloth diaper group on FB with very helpful admins, and a great peer group support for all your queries and worries regarding cloth diapers. If you happen to join pleas read the files section which is under the group’s name on tab/laptop. It will have most of the answers already.

Again can’t end without thanking the kind soul who dropped on this blog and introduced me to a whole new world :).