Recently I had to attend this big fat Indian wedding which like I mentioned earlier our family was partially organising. TBH was the main host and organiser, even more than the bride’s father. So needless to say he was extremely busy and nowhere to be seen with Bunny and Me. In fact so much so that he used to even sleep in a different room because it used to get very late for him every night.
In one line the wedding and the arrangements were a huge success and all the TBH’s hardwork paid off. The whole family including the guys side gave him a standing ovation on the Reception night. I can’t tell you how proud I was. Unfortunately it got very cold by that time and I had to retire to our room with Bunny.
Food :). All three meals/spread were unbeatable. We selected a freelancer caterer and their team did an awesome job. Food is an important part of wedding, as if that fails all other arrangements and efforts go in vain too.
The Bride. She looked like a million dollars and even more. Beautiful. Graceful. Happy. Cheerful bride. Anyway the shy types are long gone from our marriage scenario. Another commendable thing was she was always ready before time and took real good care of eating her food in time.
The Bridal trousseau. The major part of the bride’s look apart from her natural beauty was her dresses, all of which were designed by TBH’s another cousin. She runs a successful boutique in Mumbai. This was my first time meeting her and would definitely ask her to design something for me sometime in future.
The Foreigners. There were many, from across they globe including both the Business guests and Bride’s friends. And they had a wonderful time. They were so excited about each and every little ceremony. Almost all of them including the males got Mehandi on their hands. They all danced on the impromptu dhol from time to time. They were super excited seeing the bling, the dresses, the jewellery display in an indian wedding. All of them wore indian attire on the min wedding day. It was fun explaining them rituals and seeing them enjoy the wedding.
The Sangeet. The weather was horrible, it was raining in peak winters and the grand sangeet was shifted to a hall within the hotel. We all were so skeptical but it turned out to be blessing in disguise, the grand function turned into a cozy, family affair. Where people wait for their turns to dance. The professionals who were suppose to dance were kept awaited for long. The TV comedian was booed because we wanted family on stage. Their were little ego clashes, sweet fights and in the end all it turned out to be much more fun. We planned a little family dance as a surprise where all five of us (bhaiya, bhabhi, TBH, me and Bunny) join Mil & FIl in their little dance sequence. We tried to match step on one stanza of ek dusre se karte hai pyar hum beautifully portraying the family bonding we share. I wore Bunny in a ring sling, he was the youngest member to be on stage and it was appreciated by everybody. Not the dance for sure but the little family gesture.
The Family. Met a lot of people first time from TBH’s maternal side. And it was fun. Actually everybody is nice for temporary meet ups. The cousins are quite connected and almost every day in the three days wedding they stayed up night chit chatting, Teasing, leg pulling in a good way.
The Reception. It was spectacular. The stage was beautiful and luckily the weather turned in our favour. Live orchestra and fireworks added to entertainment. And the strategically placed fire arrangements led guests to enjoy amidst very cold weather. And the food like I said was mouthwatering and uncountable dishes on reception.
Me. Thankfully I prepared well for this wedding. I knew what to wear when and was looking nice throughout, methinks :). And specifically my attires were Bunny friendly. Got compliments on managing him well. Of attending, enjoying with a baby. Unfortunately with Bunny and Bunny stuff, couldn’t carry camera much and no pics. Above that TBH took my phone to be connected all throughout.
Bunny in marriage. This requires a little post in itself which I will be doing shortly to help new moms and to keep a record myself. In few words, this little guy never fails to make me feel proud of him :). He was the best he could be, by the time the wedding ended I heard someone saying they dint hear him cry even once in three days. That says it all.
No Vidaai. Yes there was no Vidaai of the bride, apparently the bride at the first place did not want a big affair like the usual indian weddings. But gave in at the end for her parents and family’s happiness. But stayed adamant on not having the traditional Vidaai. In fact all the functions were held at our hotel where the girls side was staying, the Guy and his family stayed in another hotel. So after the pheres which were held in daytime, the bride went to the guys hotel for a little religious ceremony/Pooja and returned back. After the reception they stayed together for the wedding night supposedly in a third property. The next morning the guy went baked with his family, the girl with hers :). Funny, fodder for the gossipers but I think a proactive step.Specially for families for not making any fuss over this. Vidaai seems such a sad ritual, if it all it needs to be done, should be done for both the bride and the groom.