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Bunny in Marriage – 5 days with a 5 months old

As promised, exclusive Bunny related updates in the whole marriage affair. Some dos and don’ts with 5 a month old. I think Bunny too had a great time in the whole 3 days wedding and the two days extended stay we had in the five star property. It was surprising to a lot of our guests seeing such small baby at ease, and hardly crying so thought of writing it in detail here.

First thing Firsts, Some Background.

This baby loves outings. And he always feels like home in hotels. We have observed this from very early phase. If he is unusually cranky, take him to a hotel/restaurant and you have a happy child in hand.

I think he has a habit of being amidst crowd, since its only now that we are alone. Till now we have been in either of the other homes with lot of daily visitors/strangers flowing in and he takes onto them quite well. I am not sure it is just a phase (hopefully not) or his naturally temperament (like his parents).

Also has attended so many big functions with loud noise levels that it doesn’t scare him any more. (Remember his palna, the religious function earlier mentioned in the blog)

What worked for Us.

I have to admit till now he has been a less fussy baby. Mostly he is a happy baby, so it becomes easier for us to handle him. I have been lucky to have the kind of support I have in both side of families to cater to his needs at first priority, so he knows he is been cared for. That makes a huge difference for babies.

I made sure that his sleep is not disturbed. Even if it meant coming in the room early when everybody else is enjoying. Bunny has a habit of delaying his sleep if something else is catching his fancy, that makes him cranky later. So I made sure as soon as he is sleepy I would go in a quite corner or to the room to make him sleep. Also saying firm Nos to relatives who want to wake him up to play.

Same goes with nursing. Not delaying it no matter what. Not waiting for him to cry, going by his timings and other cues. Breastfeeding has been a boon here, no struggling with bottles, formula, cleanliness etc.

Getting dresses that were baby friendly. So I could hold him whenever required. For me it meant getting only salwar suits done, no sarees for all ceremonies. I can’t handle saree well, couldn’t risk it with Bunny.

Baby wearing. Carrying your baby in a sling/carrier. Sling worked best for me. Specially each morning during breakfasts because I used to have breakfast when there were no other trusted relative around to leave him. So I would wear him on me and eat in peace.

Using Stroller. On the same lines of baby wearing, using my stroller vigorously. I loved my Graco stroller. Light to be carried around even when Bunny was not using it. Each day I would make him ready and tuck it in, it worked great in making him fall asleep when coming to room wasn’t feasible, he would have good rounds around and see the festivities. Great to make the big extended family play with him from a distance. Also worked as a shield from the harsh winter.

Making sure Trusted Relative was around. Always. Specially when I had to leave him to get ready or just to eat etc. And that specially includes people he knows/recognises. So for him it was both set of granparents, badi maa, bade papa, chachu. And still keep checking on him from time to time, just seeing the mothers face assures them.

Giving him some Mommy time. Despite the crowd, the festivities, the all day long functions, the urge to be with relatives you are meeting after so long; taking exclusive time for him, making him feel special, playing with him.

Giving him some playtime. Supervised time on the bed/where ever possible. So that he can just be himself, move as he pleases. Take his favourite toys around.

In management front. Taking all the baby essentials – super extra clothing as it was winters nothing was drying, carrying quilts. Oil, creams, diapers, extra caps everything. Not feeling guilty of using laundry for baby. Making sure to take care of your own self, not falling sick, not eating that may cause stomach trouble or sour throat.

Also having Bhabhi around (Bunny’s badi Maa), sharing room with me and Bunny was a blessing when TBH was not around and everyone else was so busy.

And lastly suno sabki, karo man ki 🙂 (Listen to everyone but do what pleases you). Because jitney log utni baatein specially when it comes to baby.

Also wanted to ask you guys, I am toying with the idea of another non anonymous blog exclusively for Bunny updates/posts/records. Should I go for it?

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The much talked about wedding

Recently I had to attend this big fat Indian wedding which like I mentioned earlier our family was partially organising. TBH was the main host and organiser, even more than the bride’s father. So needless to say he was extremely busy and nowhere to be seen with Bunny and Me. In fact so much so that he used to even sleep in a different room because it used to get very late for him every night.

In one line the wedding and the arrangements were a huge success and all the TBH’s hardwork paid off. The whole family including the guys side gave him a standing ovation on the Reception night. I can’t tell you how proud I was. Unfortunately it got very cold by that time and I had to retire to our room with Bunny.

Other Highlights

Food :). All three meals/spread were unbeatable. We selected a freelancer caterer and their team did an awesome job. Food is an important part of wedding, as if that fails all other arrangements and efforts go in vain too.

The Bride. She looked like a million dollars and even more. Beautiful. Graceful. Happy. Cheerful bride. Anyway the shy types are long gone from our marriage scenario. Another commendable thing was she was always ready before time and took real good care of eating her food in time.

The Bridal trousseau. The major part of the bride’s look apart from her natural beauty was her dresses, all of which were designed by TBH’s another cousin. She runs a successful boutique in Mumbai. This was my first time meeting her and would definitely ask her to design something for me sometime in future.

The Foreigners. There were many, from across they globe including both the Business guests and Bride’s friends. And they had a wonderful time. They were so excited about each and every little ceremony. Almost all of them including the males got Mehandi on their hands. They all danced on the impromptu dhol from time to time. They were super excited seeing the bling, the dresses, the jewellery display in an indian wedding. All of them wore indian attire on the min wedding day. It was fun explaining them rituals and seeing them enjoy the wedding.

The Sangeet. The weather was horrible, it was raining in peak winters and the grand sangeet was shifted to a hall within the hotel. We all were so skeptical but it turned out to be blessing in disguise, the grand function turned into a cozy, family affair. Where people wait for their turns to dance. The professionals who were suppose to dance were kept awaited for long. The TV comedian was booed because we wanted family on stage. Their were little ego clashes, sweet fights and in the end all it turned out to be much more fun. We planned a little family dance as a surprise where all five of us (bhaiya, bhabhi, TBH, me and Bunny) join Mil & FIl in their little dance sequence. We tried to match step on one stanza of ek dusre se karte hai pyar hum beautifully portraying the family bonding we share. I wore Bunny in a ring sling, he was the youngest member to be on stage and it was appreciated by everybody. Not the dance for sure but the little family gesture.

The Family. Met a lot of people first time from TBH’s maternal side. And it was fun. Actually everybody is nice for temporary meet ups. The cousins are quite connected and almost every day in the three days wedding they stayed up night chit chatting, Teasing, leg pulling in a good way.

The Reception. It was spectacular. The stage was beautiful and luckily the weather turned in our favour. Live orchestra and fireworks added to entertainment. And the strategically placed fire arrangements led guests to enjoy amidst very cold weather. And the food like I said was mouthwatering and uncountable dishes on reception.

Me. Thankfully I prepared well for this wedding. I knew what to wear when and was looking nice throughout, methinks :). And specifically my attires were Bunny friendly. Got compliments on managing him well. Of attending, enjoying with a baby. Unfortunately with Bunny and Bunny stuff, couldn’t carry camera much and no pics. Above that TBH took my phone to be connected all throughout.

Bunny in marriage. This requires a little post in itself which I will be doing shortly to help new moms and to keep a record myself. In few words, this little guy never fails to make me feel proud of him :). He was the best he could be, by the time the wedding ended I heard someone saying they dint hear him cry even once in three days. That says it all.

No Vidaai. Yes there was no Vidaai of the bride, apparently the bride at the first place did not want a big affair like the usual indian weddings. But gave in at the end for her parents and family’s happiness. But stayed adamant on not having the traditional Vidaai. In fact all the functions were held at our hotel where the girls side was staying, the Guy and his family stayed in another hotel. So after the pheres which were held in daytime, the bride went to the guys hotel for a little religious ceremony/Pooja and returned back. After the reception they stayed together for the wedding night supposedly in a third property. The next morning the guy went baked with his family, the girl with hers :). Funny, fodder for the gossipers but I think a proactive step.Specially for families for not making any fuss over this. Vidaai seems such a sad ritual, if it all it needs to be done, should be done for both the bride and the groom.

Wedding Invitation

I am suppose to write e-wedding invitation content for a friend this week, while working on it I thought of sharing my own e-wedding invite with you guys. I emailed the below version to all the friends and office people. Got a lot of compliments for being brutally honest in it, so much so that the content of my invite was even discussed in my year end review :). Let me know how do you find it?

P.S – Sorry for the poor editing to maintain the anonymity. Had no time. 

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PPS- I wrote the second para more being the wistful me but after being married for 2+ years, I can proudly & happily say it has turned out to be cent percent true for me. :).