As promised, exclusive Bunny related updates in the whole marriage affair. Some dos and don’ts with 5 a month old. I think Bunny too had a great time in the whole 3 days wedding and the two days extended stay we had in the five star property. It was surprising to a lot of our guests seeing such small baby at ease, and hardly crying so thought of writing it in detail here.
First thing Firsts, Some Background.
This baby loves outings. And he always feels like home in hotels. We have observed this from very early phase. If he is unusually cranky, take him to a hotel/restaurant and you have a happy child in hand.
I think he has a habit of being amidst crowd, since its only now that we are alone. Till now we have been in either of the other homes with lot of daily visitors/strangers flowing in and he takes onto them quite well. I am not sure it is just a phase (hopefully not) or his naturally temperament (like his parents).
Also has attended so many big functions with loud noise levels that it doesn’t scare him any more. (Remember his palna, the religious function earlier mentioned in the blog)
What worked for Us.
I have to admit till now he has been a less fussy baby. Mostly he is a happy baby, so it becomes easier for us to handle him. I have been lucky to have the kind of support I have in both side of families to cater to his needs at first priority, so he knows he is been cared for. That makes a huge difference for babies.
I made sure that his sleep is not disturbed. Even if it meant coming in the room early when everybody else is enjoying. Bunny has a habit of delaying his sleep if something else is catching his fancy, that makes him cranky later. So I made sure as soon as he is sleepy I would go in a quite corner or to the room to make him sleep. Also saying firm Nos to relatives who want to wake him up to play.
Same goes with nursing. Not delaying it no matter what. Not waiting for him to cry, going by his timings and other cues. Breastfeeding has been a boon here, no struggling with bottles, formula, cleanliness etc.
Getting dresses that were baby friendly. So I could hold him whenever required. For me it meant getting only salwar suits done, no sarees for all ceremonies. I can’t handle saree well, couldn’t risk it with Bunny.
Baby wearing. Carrying your baby in a sling/carrier. Sling worked best for me. Specially each morning during breakfasts because I used to have breakfast when there were no other trusted relative around to leave him. So I would wear him on me and eat in peace.
Using Stroller. On the same lines of baby wearing, using my stroller vigorously. I loved my Graco stroller. Light to be carried around even when Bunny was not using it. Each day I would make him ready and tuck it in, it worked great in making him fall asleep when coming to room wasn’t feasible, he would have good rounds around and see the festivities. Great to make the big extended family play with him from a distance. Also worked as a shield from the harsh winter.
Making sure Trusted Relative was around. Always. Specially when I had to leave him to get ready or just to eat etc. And that specially includes people he knows/recognises. So for him it was both set of granparents, badi maa, bade papa, chachu. And still keep checking on him from time to time, just seeing the mothers face assures them.
Giving him some Mommy time. Despite the crowd, the festivities, the all day long functions, the urge to be with relatives you are meeting after so long; taking exclusive time for him, making him feel special, playing with him.
Giving him some playtime. Supervised time on the bed/where ever possible. So that he can just be himself, move as he pleases. Take his favourite toys around.
In management front. Taking all the baby essentials – super extra clothing as it was winters nothing was drying, carrying quilts. Oil, creams, diapers, extra caps everything. Not feeling guilty of using laundry for baby. Making sure to take care of your own self, not falling sick, not eating that may cause stomach trouble or sour throat.
Also having Bhabhi around (Bunny’s badi Maa), sharing room with me and Bunny was a blessing when TBH was not around and everyone else was so busy.
And lastly suno sabki, karo man ki 🙂 (Listen to everyone but do what pleases you). Because jitney log utni baatein specially when it comes to baby.
Also wanted to ask you guys, I am toying with the idea of another non anonymous blog exclusively for Bunny updates/posts/records. Should I go for it?